THE BITS AND PIECES OF LIFE

I am feeling sentimental today,so here goes.

When we are young we have this perception of life as a grand house with well mowed lawns and a fountain. As life progresses we realize that the house is torn down and the lawns can no longer be seen and the fountain is covered with bushes that you cannot notice that it once existed. I guess life has a way of giving us a reality check.Look at it this way. Are you where you want to be? As a child you have dreams,a mission and a goal that gives you the strenghth of knowing that you will one day be in that dream. What really happens in between the dreams and fantasies that we create in our mind that later on change or find a diversion.

I have  been trying to comprehend and looking at my life and wondering if this is the place that I should be. Yet I do not question the reasons of my current state. The learning curve of life brings us to the situations we are in. Having learnt lessons,some very brutal, it is well to say that the harsh realities make one wiser and stronger. They  are a test to your tolerance meter. What makes you tick? How far can you stretch when pushed to the limit?

We ask ourselves why is life unfair? Accepting the situations we are in, brings forth amazing results. God cannot put you in a position he knows that you will not be able to handle. He knows that he has put you in a position with a series of tests behind them. You may not be in that dream job that you want to be but you are in a job that you do not fancy at all,there is a better job waiting for you,your patience and perseverance is  being tested…

You want that dream guy….yeah that one that you want with all those qualities that you have carefully done the checklist on,you will therefore have to meet the bad ones…the ones who make you cry,others with no sense of humor that makes you wonder if they ever laugh….then there those nasty ones who keep cheating on you and treating you like crap,others with no plan for their life they live their life on the roll with no 5 year or even 6 months plan. In the end life will change and you will meet the one man that makes your heart skip a beat. The one that actually cares about you genuinely without forcing himself. He will treat you like the queen you deserve.  Guys,you will meet all manner of women, i cant even try to imagine. Gold diggers,pretenders, cheating and lying ones….but one day the light will shine and there she will be,the woman of your dreams. Of course the other traits of a woman will remain but the headache and complaints will reduce.

Nothing in this life is as it should be,but sometimes we have to conform to what we have. It will seem difficult but we can shape and decide what this life has to offer…and take those bitter lemons and make margaritas out of them…..

SERIOUSLY?

Am not sure why I started writing this article in the first place but I wanted some clarification about the norm and culture that we are working hard to achieve in terms of love and marriage. I have nothing in particular to say but this is the point where I wanted to rant and scream and really point out how much crap that is. I recently read somewhere that there are men will do anything for a woman and they wonder why a woman is asking a lot from them. Here is why. You get married to a wonderful man who makes a decent living (according to you) and provides for everything and I mean literally everything. You will not lack anything you need. Your so called hubby feels that since he has given you everything, there is no need for you to ask anymore from him. This was the argument. As a woman you have been given everything you want; so why are you asking for more from this guy? The same guy has a right to have any woman he wants but still maintain his duties in the house as a man. I mean at what point has he missed his manly duties? I was not sure how to respond to that and for once I was left speechless and decided that whatever way a woman handles her household will also contribute to her man’s behavior. If you treat your man like trash he will most definitely look for someone who appreciates him more and listens to him more. In the same discussion it was quoted that all men think alike, “A man will cheat because it is in his genes” really? No seriously really? A man will cheat because he was born like that? That’s bullshit. I do not want to get into the nitty gritty of why cheating takes place but please let’s not go down that lane of “he cheats because he can’t help himself” crap. You are the reason he cheats. Again is it true that you can learn to love someone? That it is all about getting what you need and then learning how to love? I came to the conclusion that we really are in a materialistic world. Call me traditional but that’s my opinion on matters that maybe sound like a fairy tale but like hell I will not support some theories that have now etched into our social lives and are the rules we live by. Since I began my blog I have always said I am a romantic at heart so this is clearly it. Anyway whichever way we all want it to go, its upon us. I am still in the old school version of it…and am loving it.

RANDOM RANT

Sometimes you want to have a decent conversation with someone without them making you feel like it is a waste of time.  To put so much effort caring for someone who does not appreciate a damn thing you say or do. We owe the world nothing and this life is not ours. Am that old school that I prefer to take care of what I believe should be cared for and that is life. Just because you live your life on the balance with nothing going on for yourself except what you hear from others,you are so doomed. You are not smart enough,when will you marry,why haven’t you bought a car? Well its your life live it at your own terms and as you please. If someone makes you feel inferior like you don’t matter then screw them. I just came to the realization today that there are things not worth caring for.When you give so much attention to something or someone they take advantage of it and look at you like a fucking asshole wondering why in the world  you care. They just want to scream,get out of my world and out of my life…..and it is funny how it is so easy to get out of someones world. The easiest lesson I have learnt is that you can delete someone out of your life so easy….that is such a relief not to be able to deal with them. That’s the easy part,the hard part is trying to figure out why you even tried in the first place….such a waste of time….and you thought dealing with people was easy?There are those who are a piece of work.Anyway time to take a chill pill and enjoy this weekend to the maximum.

Be good peeps